Subsequent
Practice
1.
Preparation
We sit in the meditation posture as explained above and
prepare our mind for meditation with breathing meditation. If we like we can
also engage in the preparatory prayers.
2.
Contemplation
All living beings deserve to be cherished because of the
tremendous kindness they have shown us. All our temporary and ultimate
happiness arises through their kindness. Even our body is the result of the
kindness of others. We did not bring it with us from our previous life – it
developed from the union of our father’s sperm and mother’s ovum. Once we had
been conceived our mother kindly allowed us to stay in her womb, nourishing our
body with her blood and warmth, putting up with great discomfort, and finally
going through the painful ordeal of childbirth for our sake. We came into this
world naked and empty-handed and were immediately given a home, food, clothes,
and everything else we needed. While we were a helpless baby our mother
protected us from danger, fed us, cleaned us, and loved us. Without her
kindness we would not be alive today.
Everyone
who contributes in any way towards our happiness and well-being is deserving of
our gratitude.
Through receiving a constant supply of food, drink, and
care, our body gradually grew from that of a tiny helpless baby to the body we
have now. All this nourishment was directly or indirectly provided by countless
living beings. Every cell of our body is therefore the result of others’
kindness. Even those who have never known their mother have received
nourishment and loving care from other people. The mere fact that we are alive
today is a testimony to the great kindness of others.
It is because we have this present body with human faculties
that we are able to enjoy all the pleasures and opportunities of human life.
Even simple pleasures such as going for a walk or watching a beautiful sunset
can be seen to be a result of the kindness of innumerable living beings. Our
skills and abilities all come from the kindness of others; we had to be taught
how to eat, how to walk, how to talk, and how to read and write. Even the
language we speak is not our own invention but the product of many generations.
Without it we could not communicate with others nor share their ideas. We could
not read this book, learn Dharma, nor even think clearly. All the facilities we
take for granted, such as houses, cars, roads, shops, schools, hospitals, and
cinemas, are produced solely through others’ kindness. When we travel by bus or
car we take the roads for granted, but many people worked very hard to build
them and make them safe for us to use.
The fact that some of the people who help us may have no
intention of doing so is irrelevant. We receive benefit from their actions, so
from our point of view this is a kindness. Rather than focusing on their
motivation, which in any case we do not know, we should focus on the practical
benefit we receive. Everyone who contributes in any way towards our happiness
and well-being is deserving of our gratitude and respect. If we had to give
back everything that others have given us, we would have nothing left at all.
We might argue that we are not given things freely but have
to work for them. When we go shopping we have to pay, and when we eat in a
restaurant we have to pay. We may have the use of a car, but we had to buy the
car, and now we have to pay for petrol, tax, and insurance. No one gives us
anything for free. But from where do we get this money? It is true that
generally we have to work for our money, but it is others who employ us or buy
our goods, and so indirectly it is they who provide us with money. Moreover,
the reason we are able to do a particular job is that we have received the
necessary training or education from other people. Wherever we look, we find
only the kindness of others. We are all interconnected in a web of kindness
from which it is impossible to separate ourself. Everything we have and
everything we enjoy, including our very life, is due to the kindness of others.
In fact, every happiness there is in the world arises as a result of others’ kindness.
Our spiritual development and the pure happiness of full
enlightenment also depend upon the kindness of living beings.
Our spiritual development and the pure happiness of full
enlightenment also depend upon the kindness of living beings. Buddhist centres,
Dharma books, and meditation courses do not arise out of thin air but are the
result of the hard work and dedication of many people. Our opportunity to read,
contemplate, and meditate on Buddha’s teachings depends entirely upon the
kindness of others. Moreover, as explained later, without living beings to give
to, to test our patience, or to develop compassion for, we could never develop
the virtuous qualities needed to attain enlightenment.
In short, we need others for our physical, emotional, and
spiritual well-being. Without others we are nothing. Our sense that we are an
island, an independent, self-sufficient individual, bears no relation to
reality. It is closer to the truth to picture ourself as a cell in the vast
body of life, distinct yet intimately bound up with all living beings. We
cannot exist without others, and they in turn are affected by everything we do.
The idea that it is possible to secure our own welfare whilst neglecting that
of others, or even at the expense of others, is completely unrealistic.
3.
Meditation
Contemplating the innumerable ways in which others help us,
we should make a firm decision: `I must cherish all living beings because they
are so kind to me.’ Based on this determination we develop a feeling of
cherishing – a sense that all living beings are important and that their
happiness matters. We try to mix our mind single-pointedly with this feeling
and maintain it for as long as we can without forgetting it.
4.
Dedication
We dedicate all the virtues we have created in this
meditation practice to the welfare of all living beings by reciting the
dedication prayers.
5.
Subsequent Practice
When we arise from meditation we try to maintain this mind
of love, so that whenever we meet or remember someone we naturally think: `This
person is important, this person’s happiness matters.’ In this way we can make
cherishing living beings our main practice.